Sarah and I watched a TV program on threesomes last night. Whilst some of the people in the program were a little strange (IE not my cup-of-tea on the personality side – esp the two girls and guy) we both found the issue interesting.
Now I deliberately did not raise the subject when we went to bed. I thought I’d see what Sarah would do. Was she still thinking about it or had the whole program just been of interest at the time (or just a straightforward time killer).
Well it wasn’t long before she wanted to discuss the issues surrounding the program, in fact I’d only just finished cleaning my teeth and hadn’t even got in bed with her. We then discussed the issues for about an hour, so clearly this is something Sarah has some interest in.
We discussed me with two women, she didn’t like the idea even if she didn’t have to have sexual relations with the other women. When I thought about it, I also came to the conclusion this I didn’t like the idea of two women (I know I could keep them both satisfied in the area of sex) it was the idea of another women (interfering with everything and planning ’stuff’). I do like the idea of fucking two women but women need the relationship part as well as just a good shagging. If I’m honest I only love Sarah and would be ‘just having sex with the other women’ which lets face it would not be fair on the other women. I’ve yet to meet a women who can ‘just have sex’ they may say it’s a fling or ‘it will be fun for a while’ but they always but always want you to be totally theirs (in my experience).
We then talked about her with two men (IE me and one other), this was more interesting. Both her and I decided that we would not want someone else to come in and live with us (but maybe you think that at the start and then become fond of the guy, like in the TV program).
She was a little surprised when I said that I’d actually like to have sex with her and another guy (that’s not me with the other guy, but her with both of us at the same time). This was totally unlike the TV program where the women in effect had two separate relationships (this is more in line with Sarahs thinking).
Not sure why she was so surprised about the three way shagging, but she was even more surprised when I suggested that she might like to just have another guy every now and then and not introduce me to him at all. Even I was surprised at myself, but I thought about it and it made sense to me (I would not be denying the relationship, but it would involve me a lot less). She said she could have a relationship with someone else but was afraid that he and I might not like each other and I would come abusive towards him.
The sort of guy she’s talking about (IE the type of guy she’d find attractive would not be the same as me, unlike the TV program the two guys were quite similar). I’m reasonable well educated (degree, professional etc). My wife has a Degree (first), but our subject areas are very different, she’s all arts and history and I’m all engineering and technology (and as you can see English and writing are not my strong suits). Sarah seems to have this idea she’d have someone very well educated who may look down on me (in an intellectual way) and belittle me (with words and knowledge) and I would resort to physical abuse. I think this would mean a three way shagging would also be out of the question, someone that she would find attractive would probably not find that idea acceptable.
Now I am quite physical, I have a reasonable amount of patience, but I have been known to throw a punch (other men) and I physically man handle the kids (though have never hit them or Sarah). I do this to assert my authority upon them, as I believe physical man handling (in very limited amounts) together with verbal assertion (not abuse or swearing) is the best way the discipline children.
But it takes a lot to push me to physical violence. But clearly in Sarahs mind I may become abusive to her ‘boyfriend’ which frightens her (but also seemed to reassure her, when I said I’d always protect her and would never let anyone else hurt her or hurt her feelings).
The major issue I raised that I would not and could not accept any reduction in my sexual activity with her. I would still have to be able to have sex with her when ever and where ever I wanted (just like I do now, though it does not always mean penetration). In addition our relationship would have to be the ‘primary’ one.
I think it’s these issues that are the most difficult to deal with, not the sex itself (though the theory is fine, not sure I could actually deal with it), but the time, energy and attention challenges that she’d face with two men wanting her. I really do want her in every way all the time. It strikes me it’s the practical living and time issues that would be the hardest esp with three kids.
Now back on the the issue of me being physical, it’s only been in the last year or two Sarah has ‘come out’ as wanting sexual penetration to be ‘quite hard’. This is not rough sex, spanking, smacking, bondage or anything like that, but not what you’d call gentle either. She has quite a small frame and I’m quite well built, but she really does enjoy a good hard fuck. I know because when I’ve brought her to an orgasm either by penetration or clit stimulation she’s mine. She’ll say ‘do what you want to me now’, ‘I need it hard in me’ or ‘I’m finished now, but need you to cum inside me’.
We’ve discussed this and she says that she gets a self satisfied sort of smug feeling when I’ve cum inside her. Like she’s the one that got the cum.
For me, the idea I can use her body with her permission or ‘anything’ makes me have to control my ejaculation. On several occasions now when I ‘take her hard from behind’ she will have female ejaculation on the bed. This only occurs when I fuck her cunt from behind and when she’s already had an orgasm. Once again this has only started to happen in the last year (were we fucking right for the first 14 years of being married?). Periodically when I’m thrusting I’ll grab her arse and make sure my thumb pushes hard in to her arse hole. Not deep in, but enough her her to know it’s there and I could be fucking her in her arse (which I’ll discuss towards the end of this post) if I chose to (because she said I could do anything didn’t she). More importantly she doesn’t stop me, or say anything about it after (like don’t do that again, I don’t like it).
So clearly she needs physical man handling, I do sometimes pull her around in bed and bend her over or push her head down on to my cock to suck it. It depends on the mood, but she does enjoy it when I am ‘manful’ (in her words). On one occasion in bed (I was wanking her clit) when she went to play with my cock (it was hard and ready to go) I took her hand off it and told her she’d have to wait. A little later she grabbed it again and once again I took her hand off it and said more firmly WAIT. I pushed my fingers into her cunt and she was so wet. I said to her ‘you’re really wet now’ and she responded with ‘what do you expect, I really need you to fuck me hard now’. I told her to wipe her cunt with her knickers (that she’d taken off) and I might fuck her. She wiped her cunt with her panties and went to put them to one side, but I stopped her and made her pass then to me. I then told her ‘these knickers are fucking soaking’ she responded with ‘you’d better make me wet again then hadn’t you’. I told her to keep her hands off my cock because I hadn’t decided if she needed cum in the mouth or cum in her cunt, but she had to spread her legs because I wanted to see her cunt. She reluctantly spread her legs (she does not like them wide, less feeling for her). But then she said something very very near the subject of cuckolding ‘I may need cum but it won’t be yours’. I told her to open her legs wider and then pushed two fingers deep into her cunt (it was soaking again already), I pull my fingers out and put them in my mouth and said ‘just checking you’ve not already fucked someone and their cum is still there’. With that and my thumb still on her clit she had an ejaculation all over my hand. I pulled her legs together and push my cock down between them, so my cock shaft was rubbing on her clit and cunt lips, but the head was pushing down further. With all the talk my hard-on had been fading, but with the extra stimulation it began to rise and firm up again. As I was pushing up and down quite gently, she raised her hips slightly, I was getting a lot harder now and suddenly felt something wrapping itself around the end of my dick. I could feel her tight anal sphincter until the head of my dick was just inside her arse hole. So it seems that on occasions my well educated, sophisticated darling little wife likes to fucked hard and likes it up her arse!
I enjoy her being submissive, but I like her to take control on occasions as well, she’s not really got into the swing of this yet however (but I need to discuss this with her as I need to explore this side of her and me). I also need to fuck her arse again to make sure it’s not a one off.
